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The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
8.18.19


I was listening to a podcast the other day and the host asked her guest what she would tell her younger self if she was able to talk to her. I waited for the answer I have heard so many give when asked this same question. I would tell her everything is going to be okay. I would tell him not to give up. I would tell her she is loved. I would tell her to love herself. These are just some of the more common answers I have heard when someone has been asked what they would tell their younger self. As I drove on the 405 freeway with the podcast blasting though my speakers I anticipated a form of one these answers to come out of the mouth of the guest. It caught me off guard when the guest said she would not tell her younger self anything because her younger self would not have listened anyway. Now that was an answer I did not expect. In a nutshell the guest explained that her younger self would not have reached a point in her life to really hear what her older self would have to say. She would have still been in a phase of life where she wanted to do what she wanted to do, how she wanted to do it, when she wanted to do it despite the consequences and that was okay. What stood out for me was her unapologetic acceptance of who her younger self was. Mistakes, tears, hard lessons, all of it was okay. I found this refreshing because I think there is an unspoken way of life that does not leave a lot of room for people to navigate their way through life without carrying guilt with them. People are expected to feel guilty when they make the wrong decisions. They are even expected to feel guilty if they enjoy those things in life that have been deemed “inappropriate” by some. Think of all of the people in the world who have not been able to embrace true happiness because they are still living with the guilt of something they did, something someone did to them, or something someone thinks they should have or have not done. I have had this conversation with my daughter on multiple occasions. She is growing up. She is developing as a person. It is okay to feel insecure. It is okay not to know what your next step is going to be. This is a part of life. There will be disappointments. You will excel at some things but not all things. Everything will not always go your way even when you have done everything right. It is normal and there is no reason to feel guilty about having normal feelings. The fact is who we each are is a result of the experiences in our lives. The good, the bad, the ugly. All of it has molded us into who we are as people. The good, the bad, and the ugly happened and will continue to happen and guess what? It is okay. There will be disappointments. You will not always make the right move. You will learn as you go. Do not hinder your walk in greatness because you have chosen to pack up your guilt and carry it along with you. Learn from your mistakes. Forgive yourself. Keep moving.